GAY COUPLE : 3 Keys to Emotional Wellness While Raising Kids
When we talk about wellness, we mean the quality or state of being healthy in body and mind, especially as the result of deliberate effort. If you really focus on that definition, there is one word that stands out amongst all the rest: effort. Maintaining wellness involves effort, and not only yours, but also your partner's and your kids'. Without that combined energy, not only will your family not reach its true potential, but also your own emotional and sexual wellness will suffer. So, what's the key to success, to achieve emotional and sexual wellness, while still keeping children top priority?
1. Family Time
We are all such busy people, including our children! Understanding that there are only 24 hours in a day, the key is to carve out some dedicated family time. It's totally not easy and you may get pulled in many directions all day, specifically when coming home. But you may set rules and boundaries to facilitate success. You need to understand each other's passion for the kids and sometimes, you can plan time alone with your child. This can be beyond successful for meeting each of you rambunctious children's differing needs.
2. Partner Time
Once the kids are tucked into bed, it can be you and your partner's time to catch up on any daily events, but more importantly, really hone in on the emotional side of things—positive and negative. This allows for appropriate decision making with the hopes of improved transformations. Successful relationships have one thing and one thing only in common: communication.
3. "Me" Time
This is the most important time for emotional wellness and is most often forgotten or ignored. Time to yourself is essential for fostering positive parenting and relationships. Now, you can say that all day at work and during your commute, you are, in essence, "alone," but your mind is preoccupied during those hours and there's no way to truly focus on you as an individual to restore your soul. The work hard/play hard scenario holds so true in delineating the balance and I implore you to carve out some "me" time, engaging in the things that bring or restore pleasure into your life. It will translate to improving your relationships across all disciplines. Some may only need a short time to themselves, while others will need more time to recharge.